Today’s post is not erotica. Sorry, dear readers. I’m changing things up a bit this time. Did you know that January is Self-Love Month? Neither did I until earlier this week. Let me tell you about three ways I decided to love myself more.
I feel like self-love and self-care have become more popularized since the pandemic started last year. Clearly, they were important before that, but how many of us were really paying attention? Actually, I guess I was starting to. The first step on my self-love journey was realizing that I wanted more from my sex life, so at the end of December 2019, I asked my wife if we could open up a bit and she agreed. I found a wonderful woman about a month after that, and we had a lot of fun together. It wasn’t just sex; we connected on multiple levels. We even discovered we had separately attended the same concert back in 2003. Unfortunately, Covid-19 put the brakes on that, as she’s isolating due to some health issues in her family.
I also started seeing a therapist about a year ago. I didn’t even have any major issues I wanted to talk about. I just wanted to get better at life. I struck gold on first choice of therapist. He’s been amazingly supportive. He lets me vent and ramble when I need to. He hears me gush about my partners. He hears me complain about my problems and helps me come up with strategies to overcome them. It’s been amazing.
Finally, I was actually able to realize who I was and what I want. I’m a kinky polyamorous bisexual. It took me the last 20 years to really own that. I’ve come out to some trusted friends about it recently and I discovered that I have really great taste in friends, as their reactions have been almost entirely positive. Some weren’t surprised at all. Some didn’t care. Some had questions. Some are supportive but struggling a bit, but they’re still there.
So, I’d like to hear from some of you. What are you doing to love yourself? I’d love to hear what you have to say in the comments below.